Forgiving someone might not erase painful memories, but it can subtly update them, making past hurts feel less upsetting. It's less "forgive and forget," and more "forgive and update." ...

The phrase “forgive and forget” is a common slogan and recommendation. But does it make sense for trauma survivors? While researching for my book, You Don’t Need to Forgive: Trauma Recovery on Your ...

Somewhere along the way, we confused healing with forgetting. We started believing that to be evolved meant to erase the face of the person who shattered us. That to be spiritual, or “above it all,” ...